Tanner adds that this idea is often practiced in more spiritual sexual communities and contexts, like tantra. That being said, extended orgasms don’t have to be tied to your spirituality, and you don’t have to be a professional at tantric sex or other spirituality-focused orgasm techniques in order to achieve one. A longer, stronger climax can easily be incorporated into your sex life just by experimenting (within your boundaries) with foreplay, solo play, sexual intercourse, or all of the above.
Who Can Have an Extended Orgasm?
New York City-based, double board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist Monica Grover, MD says there isn’t an exact answer to this question. “There is not enough research to know if everyone and anyone can have an extended orgasm but it seems as though people of all genders and sexualities can have extended orgasms,” she says.
We do have some good news: regardless of whether you have a penis or a vulva, all of our experts agree that most people can achieve an extended orgasm with a bit of practice (which we’ll get to in a second). However, Tanner does note that, overall, your body does come into play. “Some people may find it easier or more attainable to achieve extended orgasms than others,” she says. Additionally, Tanner notes that some people may not find extended orgasms as pleasurable or exciting as the “instant gratification” from a typical orgasm. “In fact, the energy crash (and subsequent rest or sleep) might actually be someone’s motivation to orgasm,” she says.
Lee also points out that those with disabilities may not be able to achieve orgasm. “Age, lack of sexual desire, and mental health may also play a significant factor in not being able to have an extended orgasm,” he adds.
How to Achieve an Extended Orgasm
Here’s the thing: orgasms don’t confine to a “one size fits all” mentality, so there isn’t a singular maneuver that’ll always lead to an extended orgasm. There are, though, a few expert-approved sex tips you can implement into your next rendezvous for a pleasure-enhanced experience that could lead to one.
Break a sweat.
Before you hit the bedroom, Phillips notes that an overall healthy lifestyle can also impact your sexual well-being, including the intensity of your climax. Research from the University of Texas proves that 20 minutes of walking or running on a treadmill increases heart rate and blood flow in all organs, including the genitals. Many of us may associate increased blood flow as beneficial for those with penises in order to have an erection, but in case you didn’t know, the clitoris works in a similar way. “The clitoris swells up with blood, which helps stimulate the nerve endings,” says Dr. Grover.
On top of regular exercise, Phillips suggests incorporating stress management in order to boost your libido, as chronic stress can lead to a lowered sex drive and negative effects on sexual function, according to research published by the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. He also recommends avoiding tobacco and lowering your consumption of alcohol, both of which can lower blood flow and, therefore, sex drive.
Practice edging solo.
When it comes to actually having an extended orgasm during sex, both Phillips and Dr. Grover are fans of practicing edging to build sexual tension. “Let your partner touch and tantalize you until you’re at the brink of climax without letting you tip over the edge,” says Dr. Grover. “Work on building your arousal slowly and delivering the pressure and sensation you need to expand pleasure exponentially.”